I popped on this ultra comfy oversized sweater dress from Tobi for our afternoon anniversary date! You can never go wrong with a sweater dress – Even in 70 degree weather.. with tights. I was committed to looking cold, y’all! Haha. I got this dress from Tobi about two weeks ago and I adore it! It’s so comfy and soft. I am linking two other colors below! A good sweater dress is a wardrobe staple that can be dressed up or down, and if lightweight enough, can be worn year round.
Side note: After three years of friendship, one year of courting, and now engagement, I’ve learned that Austin can be bribed with a milkshake to do anything photoshoot/blog related – as seen in the ‘milkshake euphoria’ picture above 😉
He’s such a good sport!
Let’s talk being an introvert. As a longtime classic introvert, let me just say, we are an underestimated branch of personalty. We may be quiet, and unassuming, but, we are powerhouses. We’re like sodas – all of that hidden potential is right there waiting to burst forth.. you just have to give us a little shake.
Bad analogy? I’m rolling with it!
Being introverted doesn’t mean that we are boring, that we are disinterested, or that we’re aloof. We’re just quiet, and acquire energy from alone time. Extroverted introversion is a real thing too, ya’ll. You can be a classic introvert in your general disposition, but be more extroverted when you’re with those you are comfortable with. Especially in small numbers.
Read on for some tidbits of advice from one introvert to another! Plus a little style inspiration for your next date night.
There is a misconception that introverts are not good at socializing with others and that they don’t like people. That could not be further from the truth. Unlike extroverts, who thrive on interactions with people, we introverts don’t derive our energy from others. We find our inspiration and energy from within ourselves, and some much needed time alone.
Embrace The Exhaustion //
Listen, people drain the life right out you if you’re an introvert. It’s not a matter of not caring about people, or disliking them – we just get our energy from being alone. We’re like a rechargeable battery. We simply need to be alone in a quiet space to recharge ourselves.
Don’t fight who you are to please other people or to live up to pressures that you put on yourself. Embrace the exhaustion and take the time you need for yourself. There is no shame in it! Don’t push yourself to be more energetic or lively, or to keep going when you start to feel burned out. Be quiet when need to be, bow out gracefully when you’ve had your fill of fun with friends, flop on the couch with a bowl of popcorn and ignore the world for an hour. Do whatever recharges your introverted battery!
And don’t let those extroverts shame you either. We love them [ I’m marrying one! ] but they just don’t get it. Go recharge yourself girl!
Do Try Something New //
Since we introverts tend to be homebodies [ remember that socializing is exhausting thing? ] we sometimes forget to take the opportunity to try something new. Stepping out of our comfort zone is contrary to our disposition! Trying something new is a wonderful thing for introverts. It helps us break the habit of willingly being in a rut. We see and hear so much as introverts, being listeners by nature. Finding new ways to foster our minds and creativity keeps our internal battery charged and can even bring out some extroverted moments.
The most important thing: Do something that brings you joy. Try watercolor painting or play around in the kitchen with a recipe you’ve been dying to try. Knit a sweater! Hey, I didn’t say you had to leave your house.. just try something new 😉
Laughter Is Good For The Soul //
Melancholy is the hallmark of introverts. It’s not that we’re unhappy, we’re just.. brooding. This isn’t a fault! Some of our best creative moments come from our wistful melancholia. It is important though to take time to open a window in that melancholia and find release in laughter.
Our brooding nature isn’t a bad thing, but, there are pros and cons to any aspect of a personalty. It is the cons that force us to grow in life, and in that they are a good thing! Growth is never negative. Since we are melancholy we can find ourselves feeling downright depressed sometimes. Laughter is a beautiful counter balance to this, and though it is good for everyone to laugh with abandon, it is most especially a treasure for introverts.
So laugh often! Laugh with your love, laugh with a good friend, laugh alone dancing around in your kitchen to your favorite song!
What is your biggest struggle as an introvert? How do you recharge your introvert battery? What is your favorite way to relax and laugh?
Just casually lookin’ like a bumble bee in this comfy weekender outfit. Austin and I love wandering around downtown on the weekends – popping into shops to browse around, and sipping on tea floats from a local market. It is our time to just be together and forget about the work week. Don’t you love those days!?
Tea floats are outrageously good by the way. If you ever have the opportunity to try one.. DO IT. They are made by combining sweet tea with frozen sorbet of varying flavors – lemon is my favorite. The sorbet is dropped in just like ice cream in a ice cream float. It’s like sippin’ on heaven.
Outfit Details //
Bag: Local Boutique
Keychain: Kendra Beshk
If you are still walking through the forrest of singleness, take heart! It is a painful journey at times, and so often a lonely one. Our hearts are meant to pair up. Seek God in your singleness and live fully! Do the things that bring you joy, take a risk, cry when it hurts, and prepare. Prepare your heart for the day when that man walks across your path by finding contentment where you are right now and pursuing the life that God knit you so uniquely for. You are whole without your future husband. Life will just be all the sweeter with him.
Have you tried a tea float? Any exciting new happenings in your life? Are you still weathering the journey of singleness? Share, share, share in the comments!
With so much love,
Are you a leggings or jeans girl? What is the boldest color you’ve worn?
With love, xo
Overcoming doubt starts with our perspective about God; who He is, what He has done for us, and what He continues to do. There have been so many times over the past five years that I have felt forgotten by God. The truth though was that I had forgotten Him. I had forgotten His sovereignty and His mercy. I had forgotten to seek Him. Peace drifted away as doubt washed in, covering my heart in a haze. I learned through the ebb and flow of uncertainty that my peace comes from the Lord. This is true for all of us. Security that washes away our doubts is rooted in the Lord.
Doubt and fear can encompass many different things – fear of the future, doubt about your purpose, uncertainty in your job, your relationship, and even doubt that hopes will become a reality. Remember in your doubt/fear that God works things out for His glory and our good. You are not forgotten by God, you are not alone in the void. Set your heart and your mind on Him and seek His peace – You will find it in abundance.
Confide In Someone.
This is such a difficult thing to do [ at least it is for me ], but, it is an important step to take in dealing with doubt. So often we bottle up what we feel, especially when we are experiencing feelings of doubt or fear about our life, our purpose, important decisions, circumstances etc. The temptation to weather our fearful doubts alone can be powerful. There can be shame or fear of being seen too deeply. This is something that I find incredibly difficult. I like to be viewed as a strong woman – and I am strong. I am also weak at times. I hurt and I weep. I am a broken sinful human being who needs God as much as anyone else.
Overcoming doubt and fear begins with letting someone else in. Confide in a woman that you trust. Pour out your fears, pour out the doubt that you feel, and let that release wash over you. Holding in all of those negative emotions wears us down overtime. So uncork the bottle that is your feelings and pour them out on the trusted ear of a friend. The freedom and release that it will bring will refresh your weary heart immensely.
Realize What You Are Not.
You are not your fear. Fear/doubt and uncertainty are emotions that we experience, but, they are not who we are and they do not define us. It is easy to identify with our fear rather than see it as a feeling that we are experiencing for a time. When I am in the midst of battling doubt and fear I often feel like that is all that there is. I become my emotions, wearing them like a second skin or a mask over the heart of who I am. Realizing what is true, and that I am not my uncertainty, completely changes my perspective and gives me a renewed positivity!
Take hold of what is real and tangible. Let go of wearing emotions by choosing to see the truth – You have a unique purpose, your hopes will come to fruition with hard work, you are more capable than you believe, and you are strong. Embrace the positive! Emotions can take a strong hold if we give them power. Choose joy and positivity. Life is hard, yes, but it is a beautiful journey to be embraced and savored with joy, not withered by fear and doubt.
Take Time for Yourself.
Uncertainty flourishes when we are worn thin. Make time to step back and take care of yourself, even for just a few minutes. For me, listening to music or going for a run [ or both! ] helps me clear my mind and completely relax. I have learned to take the time necessary to unplug and allow peaceful ease to settle in. Without my ‘me time‘ I would be more susceptible to the doubts and fears that try to bring me down. Renewing our minds, hearts and bodies is essential to overcoming doubt! A healthy, positive outlook begins with a rested mind and heart, alongside strength of body. Foster peaceful positivity by setting aside time to relax, in whatever form that takes for you [ exercise, reading, coffee with a friend..] and truly refresh.
Outfit Details //
Top: BB Dakota
Scarf: Local Boutique
Bag: T. J. Maxx
I hope this post encouraged you to break free from your doubts and embrace life with joy. Thank you for allowing me to share my struggles and journey openly. I’m nervous and excited to continue breaking down my barriers and be completely real with y’all. I hope you’ll find freedom here on The Nosh Life to share your journey too!
Have you struggled with doubt or fear of any kind? What have you done to overcome them? What do you do for your ‘me time’?
I bought this green dress from H&M on a shopping trip a few months ago and it has quickly become one of my favorite pieces. It is so easy to dress up or down, and it is thin enough to wear during the summer too. I’m actually really excited to wear this dress as an over-jacket with a pair of black ponte leggings, booties, and a neutral blouse!
There is nothing that I love more than saving money. Don’t we all love that! I picked this dress up for $15 – a steal in my book. I bought a few other pieces between $10/$12, all of which have become staples in my wardrobe. I don’t often shop at H&M, but, when I do I never regret it!
This green chartreuse dress was a risky buy for me. I find that richer colors are more complimentary to my fair skin tone. I couldn’t pass this dress up though! It is so fun and versatile.
Outfit Details //
Shoes: Steve Madden
Necklace: Local Boutique
Bag: Local Boutique
What is your most worn piece during fall? Are you a sweater girl or a jacket girl? What is the boldest color that you have worn?